- Pay attention to people’s feet when you are approaching them.
When you approach a group of people while in a conversation, pay attention to their bodies. If they turn only their torsos and not their feet, it means they are in the middle of an important conversation and they don’t want you to interrupt them. If they turn both torso and feet, it means you are welcome.
- Want to see if someone is paying attention to what you are saying? Fold your arms.
Fold your arms while talking and see if the other person follows your move. If the other person is observing you and pays attention, they will most likely mimic you.
- If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer, just wait. They will keep talking.
If they finish the answer without providing a full answer, just wait. Stay silent and keep eye contact. If the tension becomes unbearable, raise your eyebrows. It also sub-communicates that you are a person that usually gets what he wants.
- If you want to be persuasive, try and reduce the use of the words “I think” and “I believe.”
Obviously these words do not evoke confidence and the other person will most probably not take you seriously. Change them to ‘I know’ and ‘I will’ instead.
- Want to find out which people are close to each other within a group and who is perceived as the leader?
Pay attention to who is looking at each other when everyone in the group laughs at a joke. People instinctively look at and agree with the person they feel closest to within the group.
- When someone insults you, either ignore him or mock him. Never lose temper. Always control the frame.
Haters are everywhere. The more you feed them with hate, the stronger they become. Never lose your temper. This is a great example of how to deal with a hater. Enjoy!
- Try to sit right next to an aggressor
Remember that person who sat right next to your boss in the conference room, while you and the rest of your crew were getting blamed for something? This person must be a genius, or a clever psychological hacker, because this very person increased their likelihood of being spared tremendously.
- Mirror people’s body language to build up trust
If you subtly mimic the body language of the person you’re talking to, you can effectively build up trust with them. By mirroring the way they speak and how they move they’ll like you more, because, to them, it will seem as if you are pretty good compatible.
- Chew gum if you are nervous.
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